Sirge - contract

Over the past couple of weeks, my mutt and I have been working on a "Contract of Partnership and Power Exchange." Every time we update the agreement, add to the expectations, review the wording, I feel a huge mental, emotional and physical surge. For those of you who may be considering creating a contract or an agreement in your BDSM relationship, I would like to share our process.

I wrote a list of areas/aspects of my mutt's life that I wanted to manage and areas I thought he would like for me to control. mutt then reviewed the list, added to it, and ranked the areas based on his desires and identified the frequency (daily, weekly, monthly, or as needed) that he wanted me to manage.

From there, he picked the first areas he considered to be important and we talked about what they would entail. Those areas included - "Finances", "Personal Information", "Technology and Digital Media" and "Career". We then moved into "Personal Hygiene", "Personal Gear", "Communication", and "Daily Routines". Lastly, we have "Toys and Gear" and "Recreation" to finish. Each area has specific expectations and we both know we can discuss and amend a category or sub-component, if we feel there is a need.

Most times, mutt has some basic level of autonomy, or self-management, but there is usually an underlying expectation that I have. For example under "Personal Hygiene" -

"mT will shave his face and neck as he see fits on a daily basis, unless ST gives him specific instructions. mT must keep some amount of facial hair on his face at all times."

I would encourage you to consider creating a contract. There are many examples that can be found on the Internet. An agreement can be as basic or as elaborate as You/you want based on Your/your particular needs and desires. mutt and I know each other quite well so it was relatively easy for us to start putting our interests and expectations down on paper. It was pretty much how we already live Our life together, with a general tone of Power and Control...now in print.

Though we agreed to start following the contract on 10/30/11 in it's draft form, I look forward to the completion of the final document, for the day that we both sign the physical contract, and Our partnership becomes officially binding. For myself, this contract strengthens my pledge to honor, respect, care and own my mutt with great pride and dignity.